Thoughts

Little Ashley went for her first Raya open house on Saturday. Though she had fun but I think her parents had even more fun enjoying some yummy-licious foodies. I told the Hubs that next year, I am bringing my tupperware to take home some of those delicious rending chicken home and slowly savour them for a few days. Then again, I think I better not. I may just give the host a reason not to extend us the invite. I want to maintain long- term open house relations.

Speaking of Ashley, she has grown leaps and bounds. In a few days, she will reach her 7th month milestone. No wonder people always say “Gosh, the kids grow up so fast”. Yeah, now I can actually feel it for myself and say that with authority. It feels like it was only yesterday that I checked into the hospital to get myself induced (my friend said “wah, like check into hotel”. She has absolutely no idea), the entire labour process, my obs came in looking like Tim the tool man and finally, Ashley came slipping out into the world.

I honestly need to blog more about her and her achievements and how our lives have changed so much because of her. Well, not in a bad way. I actually can’t find a single word to describe how we feel, how our lives have changed, how we have changed. Sometimes, the Hubs will say “Gosh, I can’t believe we have a daughter, its still so surreal”. I know why he said that cos it took us a long time before deciding to have kids after we got married. Gatherings and baby showers were usually quite awkward for us cos friends would ask about our plan to have kids. People are generally very curious when they know you have been married for a while and yet, you continue to arrive at parties as a twosome.

We basically didn’t feel that we were ready at that point in time, during the first few years of marriage. Not that we knew when we would be ready or at what circumstances for us to “be ready”. Its just we needed to feel the feeling of ‘readiness’ (if there is such a thing). The baby plan got pushed forward year after year until we decided we wanted to have a ‘doggie” baby (for us Chinese, each of our Chinese calendar year is represented by 12 animal signs and if I recall correctly, last year was the year of the dog). Actually, it was the Hubs’ idea to have our baby born in the year of the dog but then, you know how sometimes your plans don’t turn out as planned. Either that or we weren’t very accurate. J

A friend once told me before that when you have kids, your kids will be your priority and your mobile will have pictures of only your kids. So true, for both of us that is. Everything we do, Ashley comes first. She is our priority no matter what. I even got a new phone so I could take pictures of Ashley and use them as the phone’s wallpaper. Oppss..now you know, I have been carrying around those archaic black and white screen with no polyphonic ring tone ones.

Ashley has been very kind to us. Generally, she’s not a particularly fussy baby (apart from her teething woes now) and she sleeps through the night from very early on. She has no problems, most of the time, playing by herself as long as we are within eye contact with her. Perhaps this only lasts a while. Wait till she’s older, when she learns how to talk, walk, run etc.. It does seem like we have successfully crossed the first hurdle, are we ready for the next one? Lets just say, its in the pipeline *wink*.