When I decided to stay home and take care of Ash, my friend gave me one advice. Though she's not married, therefore had no idea what SAHM's are or supposed to do, how in the world was she going adequately advise me?
Aha...well, I'm not that stuck- up -- so I listened. She told me "make sure you wear something nice everyday. DOn't make yourself look frumpy".
I was "ok". I really nodded and listened intently and made a major mental dent in my head.
She wasn't being mean. When you think about it, she actually had a point. For someone who isn't married, she really has a point. Looking good takes effort, but..when you look good you actually feel good. Don't you agree?
However, I must confess that I never really did what she told me to. I don't know why but probably, I felt, it just wasn't practical for me. It's like, unless I am going out, it just doesn't make sense for me to 'dress up' or wear something 'decent' at home. By the time I am done with the kids and cooking, I am already sweating up buckets.
But, recently, I decided to act on her advice. Not that I started wearing heels while giving lil Em a bath or when I'm cooking lunch for that matter, but just that I decided to..de-frumpisize. Yep, I made sure that every morning, after I've cleaned my face and brush my teeth, I'd pick out something nice to wear. It could be that sun-dress I have in my wardrobe or that flowery tube I bought a week ago.
It felt nice. The day seemed brighter for some reason. Even the hubby asked me if I was going somewhere even though I wasn't carrying my rfid wallet..hahahah...:-P.
Anyway, it has been a fun exercise. I began to realize how frumpy i've been looking and possibly feeling all these SAHM-years. Only picking out clothes to wear when we are going out is so un-fun. It's definitely a different feeling when you're pretty-ing up everyday now, isn't it?
So, what about you, what do you wear at home as SAHMs? Are you the lazy frumpy ones like me or are you the glam un-frumpy ones? :-D.
6 comments:
This is such an interesting post. I make sure my hair is pinned up neatly, sometimes with a nice clip. Recently started pulling out nicer tops to wear too. It does brighten the day. :)
It's true. I was like that in KL. I would just wear my old tshirt and shorts..was the frumpiest teenager mom in the world.
Over here, can't help it. Might as well, dress nicely, because I have to go out everyday to pick up men, eh..I meant, kids from school.
*dry cough 2x*
This is so true. Someone gave me similar advice when I had my eldest girl. On the days when I am at home, I do take make the effort to dress well. It does make a difference to one's mood. Great advice!
oh i've heard about this but i feel so much more comfortable in tshirts and short :) whenever i go to the market or the shops nearby, i'll still wear tshirts and shorts but better looking ones (without holes)...hehehehehhee. the only time i try to wear something nice is when we go out for dinner or to the mall :D
so i guess now you look like my friend, E?? hahhahahahahahahahaa
I think I am worse. As a FTWM now when I go home and am in my reasonable house clothes, I evern wear that out to buy bread or to pick up the kids.
Don't bother to change. Sigh.
My sis says I look TOO AUNTY already!
agree. looking good makes u feel good. agree totally!!
jen
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